Pretty much every dating site is crowded with horny men looking to get laid but when it comes to hook up sites, the competition is even more fierce. There are several men for every one woman, all fighting to get her attention.
So what’s a man to do?
As a guy looking to get laid online, there’s nothing you can do about the competition. There are a lot of horny guys out there and they’re there to stay. The only thing you can do is to differentiate yourself from the crowd.
Make yourself stand out. Set yourself apart. Be in a class of your own.
If you follow the tips below to differentiate yourself from all the other horny men, you don’t have to worry about the hundreds of new guys (more competition) edging in on your turf on a daily basis. You don’t have to concern yourself that there might not be enough girls online.
However many guys there are or how few girls there are, you’ll be able to attract enough girls to keep you busy. Here’s what you have to know to stand heads and shoulders above the rest…
Be on “Date” Behavior
Ever tried to find yourself a girlfriend? Sure you have. It’s obvious you eventually want to sleep with someone who is going to be your girlfriend, but you never lead with that, do you?
Approach finding a hookup on a hookup site the same way you would approach finding a girlfriend on a regular dating site. Would you introduce yourself with a dick pic on Match.com? Would you spew all your sexual fantasies on Chemistry.com? Probably not.
Of course, neither of those are hook up sites that work very well but one thing you need to keep in mind is that men often behave very, very differently on hookup sites than they do on regular vanilla dating sites.
The men think because it’s a hookup site, they can get away with really raunchy behavior and frankly, many women are sick of it.
So take advantage of this situation. Present the same or a similar persona on a hookup site as you would on a regular dating site and just that little act alone – coming off like the one decent guy on a site full of hornsters – will instantly differentiate you from the crowd.
You’ll be like a safe oasis in a desert full of desperate men. Guess who the women will flock to?
No, not in the STD kind of way. Speaking of which, you should get yourself tested and make mention of that when you’re interacting with women on hookup sites. But anyway, about positivity…
Many men approach hookup sites with a sort of simple wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am mentality. They’re looking for easy sex and think that the process of finding it will be just as easy.
They couldn’t be more wrong.
You might be looking for a quick hookup with a hottie. That’s fine. But the best way to approach this is NOT by listing all the non-hotties you don’t want to have contact you.
Stay away from any sort of negative laundry lists: “No fatties, no one older than 30, no blah blah blah blah…” These lists make you look like a drag. Why? Because nit-picky, negative people are a drag.
If you’re a hot girl looking for a fun time, would you choose Mr. Negativity to spend your valuable time with?
Make Her Laugh
If you can make a girl laugh, you’re that much closer to getting her in bed. Even when a girl laughs at you, it’s still better than nothing (be confident enough in the face of laughter in your face and you can score major points).
If you’re not that funny, you can at least tease her. Girls do like to be teased, but it takes a certain amount of confidence to be able to pull it off.
The great thing about getting laid online is that it gives you time. Even people who aren’t funny in the moment can come up with something if given a few moments.
Take advantage of this online time warp to craft a humorous, light-hearted profile. Take a few moments to inject some humor when writing back to the most promising potentials.
A sense of humor isn’t just crucial in dating – it could be the difference between her deleting your message or responding back.
This one is a little hard to describe, so it’s being labeled “oblivious.” What this means is to NOT acknowledge why you are on the site you’re on.
One of the worst profile mistakes men make is to sound ashamed or desperate about why they’ve joined an adult dating site (i.e. “I haven’t had sex for a really long time and am ….).
Skip this altogether. You don’t have to mention it, or worse – try to justify it. Act as though it’s the most natural thing in the world.
You know all those things you’ve been too ashamed to talk to past girlfriends about? You know, all your various fetishes and naughty quirks that really turn you on…
Well, those taboos are exactly what can help you entice women on hookup sites. The truth of the matter is that most women don’t have difficulty getting laid. What they do have difficulty with is expressing their own fetishes and naughty quirks to the men they’re “seriously” dating.
This is actually one of the most clever ways to get a steady stream of easy sex online – appeal to her basest fantasies. It’s easiest, of course, if you have those same fantasies yourself and can describe them in the ways she’ll most react to.
So whatever it is that floats your boat, put it out there. In detail. The women who are fantasizing about the same thing will come running.